In an effort to procrasinate from studying for a final that I have absolutely no interest in because I’m bound to get a B in Spanish, I stumbled upon “Sex and Dating Tips from Seniors to Freshmen.” This particular piece of advice stood out for me:
“It can be easy to get caught up in classes, extracurricular activities and partying, and most people forget that hooking up drunk at a party isn’t how normal people act. It can be good to go out on a date every once in a while, get dinner and see a movie your friends would make fun of you for seeing. After all, you’ll have to start dating after college, no use forgetting how to while you’re there.” – Travis Hanes, Salisbury University.
I need all of my seniors to throw in one big collective sigh. Please and thank you.
College is supposed to do a lot of things for us. Help us land a job, give us life long friends, all that jazz. College also cripples us in a lot of ways (i.e the panic attacks I’ve been having at the thought of waking up at 6am for work in a few weeks after having class at noon every day.) Apparently, one of the main ways a lot of us are crippled is in the world of dating.
The other day, my best friend and I had a brief conversation about our adult dating fate. “At least in college,” I told her, “people know you’re just looking to get laid.” And, it’s true. There’s usually a mutual understanding between two college-aged adults that they’re in it for one thing and there’s no need for the flowery extras. But, I’m not sure how it works for post-college adults. Now, of course, post-college adults are still mammals and they’re looking for one thing, too. But, after college, are we expected to be ready for full blown dating? (That question was very Carrie Bradshaw of me.)
Because I can pull the college card for a whole ‘nother 4 days, I’m going to say I don’t know. I can’t speak for what it is to be a real adult. I’m certainly not ready to trade in my irreverent approach to the opposite sex just yet, but maybe I can disguise it better as an adult?
Well, Travis Hanes of Salisbury University, I will agree with you on one thing: normal people don’t just get drunk at parties and hook up with people. I remember when my ex started working and he referenced one of his co workers as “that girl who always got effed up at parties in college.” It might be cool or funny to be that girl in college, but in adult life, it just comes across as sad and pathetic. So, perhaps we all should aim a wee bit higher in adult life. Just a wee bit. We may never be respectable and credible adults when it comes to dating, but the least we can do is fake it till we make it.