This post is an excerpt from Twenties Unscripted: A Journey of Womanhood, Writing, and Relativity. The full essay is available in the book, which is currently available for pre-sale here.
The paradox of not being “ready for a relationship” is that there is no particular time when we are 100% prepared to enter a partnership. There is not a “Yes, my shit is finally together and I am ready for a significant other” moment upon which the gods will drop the perfect mate into our stratosphere. If only it were that easy. However, there are certainly times when we are not ready for relationships. There are times when we may have just exited a blighted break-up, are facing unprecedented personal tragedy, or are working non-stop. There are times when we only want to remain single, party and bullshit. There are times when we are amassing the puzzle pieces to make us feel more whole.Those are, arguably, all times when we are not prepared to enter a partnership.
Because, a relationship is not just the right person. It is the right person, at the right time and for the right reasons.