Remaining Honest With Yourself About What It Really Takes

What’s a blunt truth about getting to where you are? What’s one myth about success that you want to dismantle? What’s been the hardest thing about getting to where you are?

Those are some of the questions the women answered for part 2 of our Foundations of a Powerhouse series.

Success wears many veils, and I wanted to finally take some of them off. Too often people see someone at chapter 10 in their life or career without ever knowing all of the torn and tattered pages that were written and rewritten to get to that point. Special thanks to these four ladies for being open and honest, not only with us, but also with themselves, about what it has really taken to get to where they are.

Candice VanWye | Entrepreneur and Bloggercandice v

A blunt truth about getting to where I am is that I had to be uncomfortable to get here. To have any level of success you have to give up something or do something you don’t want to do. It can be anything from working a job you hate to learning to live with less money to missing a girl’s night out. It hasn’t always been fun but it’s paying off and for that I am grateful.



Alisha Byrd | Owner of and 

The hardest thing about getting to where I am has been being heard. I am naturally shy and an extreme introvert and I feel like a lot of times that has gotten in the way of me really getting across what I have to say. Sometimes I feel like I am being talked over in a room because of how I take a more reserved approach to everything. But I am so passionate about what I do and I always have this burning desire to speak on it so I was determined not to let that stop me. I built a platform where I could speak freely and kept speaking about the things I loved until people had no choice but to listen. Slowly over the years I feel like my passion and determination has made me a little louder.

Yetti | Creator of YettiSays.comYetti

There isn’t anything easy about obtaining and maintaining success. Don’t be fooled by the exceptions that the world highlights. Don’t be fooled by the smiles or the “do it for the gram” pictures. Success is far from a stroll in the park. The path toward success is kind of like feeling your way around in the dark. You have moments where you can make out a clear path to take, but there are also moments where you haven’t the slightest clue of what direction you’re heading in, but you keep going, enduring fumbles and scraped knees because, faith. There will be sacrifices, there will be tears, there will be loneliness, and there will be come-to-Jesus moments. It’s all part of the journey.

meAshleigh N. Whitby | interactive designer & creator of SAID IT LOUD and unchose.

A blunt truth about getting to where I am is that it requires a lot of solitude. To truly finesse the potential of my destiny (after I realized what that was), I had to brainstorm and research. I had to skip a lot of things I wanted to do because I knew I needed to capitalize on the time alone to make headway. The silence allowed me to hear from God. It allowed me to prepare for my next steps. It allowed me to nurture my purpose.

But solitude also meant becoming private. What’s meant for you isn’t always information everyone needs to know. I had to keep a lot to myself, especially in those initial stages. I waited a few days to tell my friends that I was dropping out of the MFA program and going to pursue another graduate degree. I waited almost a year to reveal SAID IT LOUD. I didn’t want to get met by any “nice nasty” comments like “You sure, girl? You sure are busy…” or “Well, what about…” People will attempt to mean well in the form of passive aggressive doubt and fear. And some just won’t get it, especially if it’s something that appears to be out of our normal comfort zone. You have to let the meat marinate for a while so it tastes good later. Something like that.

This period of isolation will reveal so much. Superficial relationships will fall to the wayside. Mentors and professional partnerships will be created. Sacrifice becomes a familiar acquaintance. But it’s all worth it. You just have to push back from the chatter in order to for the destiny to truly manifest.

3 Replies to “Remaining Honest With Yourself About What It Really Takes”

  1. Amen! I identify with each of their statements and as an entrepreneur and blogger, I wholeheartedly agree. Success requires sacrifice, discomfort and a lot of solitude. Relationships end and they form too. It’s not as glorious as people make it out to be on social media. Thank you and these beautiful ladies for bringing this to light.

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